So last week, I was leafing through some of the magazines at work during a lunch break one day. One of them, Macleans, featured an article from one of the December issues called "The Etiquette Expert's Tips on Turning Heads".
The topic of etiquette always piques my interest so I read on. The article was about how an etiquette expert, Adeodata Czink, conducted a one day etiquette workshop in Toronto for teens about topics such as punctuality, posture, first impressions, grooming, room entrances, body language, greeting people, answering phone calls properly and manners.
Two points in the article that jumped out at me were about room entrances and a certain over-used phrase.
1. Own the Room.
Ms Czink states that "whenever you enter a room, you should think 'I, the queen' or 'I, the king, have arrived.' This is what gives the self-confidence. We don't have 'Sorry, I am here.' It's ta-dum!"
This statement had me thinking about how I enter a room. If I am going somewhere familiar, I am usually confident and walk in like I believe it. If I am going somewhere for the first time and feel shy/uneasy, I usually adopt the "Sorry, I am here" slouchy posture stance. I have natural wallflower tendencies and my worst fear is looking like I don't know what I am doing or where I am going!
One doesn't have to be apologetic for being in the room. This statement inspired me to think about owning the room, like I deserve to be there. No more "Sorry, I am here", but "I am here, no apologies!"
2. Get Rid of the Sorry.
I laughed out loud when I first read this quote in the article: "You're not sorry! Canadians are constantly sorry. I'm stepping on your foot and instead of saying, 'Move Over,' you say, 'Sorry.' " Ms Czink goes on to say, "Get rid of the sorry. It's in our vocabulary almost as much as the 'um' and the 'like' and the 'sort of'. "
This is so true. Living in Canada and myself being one of those "I'm sorry" people, Canadians are constantly saying 'sorry' for things they don't have to be sorry about. (I find it ironic that people say "I'm sorry" for unsorry/ridiculous things and "I apologize" for things they are actually sorry about or when they are forced to make an apology...ever notice that?) Of course, there are the over-sorry people and the not-ever-sorry people.....
Who knows where the "sorry" mentality came from but it inspired me to shut up and quit saying "I'm sorry" unless I really am sorry about something!
Self-improvement is always a good thing.
Are you in the Sorry Club?