My cousin S and I were reminiscing about our weddings the other day and what weddings were like when we were both single.
Apparently, the worst thing single ladies face at weddings is the inevitable bouquet toss by the bride. Suddenly, everyone in the room knows you are single and a v a i l a b l e and expected to hook up with whomever caught the garter. Unfortunately, I have been at too many weddings where a 20-something gal caught the bride's bouquet and a 5 year old boy caught the garter. Ever notice that? Oh and then those two are expected to lead everyone into the next dance.
I caught the bouquet at my brother's wedding in 1997. There were only 3 of us vying for the bouquet. Yah, big crowd. A 14 year old (me) standing there with two women over 30. No big bouquet fights there!
Did you have the bouquet toss at your wedding?
What about the garter toss?
Hell, NO. Both Hubs and I vetoed it as it was not in our plan for Hubs to take off my garter to stripper music. Thankfully, no one forced the issue.
I always thought the cake cutting was so hokey, because at most weddings I had attended prior to my wedding (and after), the bride and groom pretended to cut the cake for photos, set down the still-clean cake knife on the table and walked back to the head table. And on the other side of the spectrum, I've never been a fan of the bride and groom smashing cake in the other person's face upon first taste and acting like rambunctious animals while smashed cake remnants drip down your dress and ruin it. Nice impression to leave with your guests who are taking your nuptials seriously....
Anyway so I said NO CAKE.....until my Mom put her foot down and insisted I have a cake at my wedding. My aunt has made and decorated all the cakes for all the family weddings on my Mom's side of the family for years, and only because she is my Godmother that I agreed to it. But on one condition (actually, three). The cake had to be mid-size, we would do our cake cutting photos immediately when the reception started, and all the cake had to be eaten that night. No saving cake layers to freeze for our anniversary (which would never be eaten). The plan worked well. Everyone ate all the cake, we actually ran out towards the end and it was a win-win for everyone.
Oh, it was red too. Each layer was a different flavour.
Red, White and Black. I had a red shawl made for me as I wanted 'colour' with my ensemble, and I wore red shoes.
Dress? Or Not?
I luckily found my dress off-the-rack for a great deal and I loved the vintage look (pre Mad Men!)
Were you able to keep the guest list at a reasonable level?
We had around 150-175 people at our wedding, which was more than what we had initially planned for, but in the end, everyone was happy.
Flowers - real or fake?
Real. I loved my bouquet.
Hometown Wedding or Destination?
Home for Hubs. I did not get married in my hometown, I wanted to get married in the City where we were living (and still do).
What Day Were You Married?
June 3, 2006.
First Dance Song? (if there was one?)
How Deep Is Your Love by The Bee Gees. Very appropriate for us.
Aside from some ridiculous family drama (loooooooooooong story) which occurred right before the reception started, (unbeknownst to us until right before we walked into the reception!!) the day went off pretty well. We had a blast at the dance with our friends, many of whom are still our close friends today. And it was great to see many long distance relatives and friends I had not seen in a long time.
So let's dish -- I want to hear about your wedding (if married) and your musts and do nots! If not married, chime in anyway. We all have an opinion about weddings..... :)